Thursday, October 30, 2008

THE WORLD FAMOUS MIC CLUB Returns to the MASQUERADE!!!

I want to talk to you for a moment about the MASQUERADE and exactly why We @ 4Kings Entertainment chose to move Our event THE WORLD FAMOUS MIC CLUB to this Venue.

1. We felt that the MASQUERADE is a Venue that is seeped in what We're about(and NO IT IS NOT A FORMER SLAVE AUCTION BLOCK!!! But in fact click this link You can get the FULL STORY -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DuPre_Excelsior_Mill)... Historically, the MASQUERADE has been host to a great Number of Hip Hop Shows that cater to the Underground Hip Hop community here in the Southeast. With shows such as these...






































































































2. The Parking is FREE!!! No BOOTMAN!!! NO HOMELESS PEOPLE!!! - When you come out to the Masquerade, you can actually park near the Venue and leave your Car and not have any hassle or worry about your Car!!!

3. The Bartender's can pour drinks & get them to You quickly. Now at the Apache that wasn't a problem and for that we were truly grateful. But here the drinks are Good and Worthy of Your Patronage and Gratuity!!!

4. Now every show isn't gonna be a SCION Live Metro Concert event but, we will make sure to actually listen to you and trust you to let Us know what Artists You want to see at MIC CLUB.

5. The Economics of the Deal - We got a better deal from the MASQUERADE up front than we would've gotten from the APACHE in the 6+ Years that we were there... You know our track record & You know what we did at our Former Home.







6. The Room is bigger which means that we can bring in Bigger Shows and find Sponsors to help assist Us in making these shows a reality. We can hold a Crowd of less than 500, as well as, a crowd of More than 1,300 Inside and nearly 5,000 Outside!!!

7. We have one of the Best Sound Systems in the City!!! - I know that alot of You, really don't care about how an event Sounds. It's kind of like a given thing, right? Well, No.. if the sound ain't right then You're not gonna feel it, period.

8. The Essence of The team is still here!!! - DJ's Edward Scizzahandz & Razah are still here... We tapped our Friends The MOVEMENT to be Our House Band and of Course I'm here as well. LOL!!!

9. The SHOW WITHIN THE SHOW - All of the Events that make The World Famous Mic Club a cut above the Rest are here, too.
THE MIGHTY MIGHTY BEAT DOWN & The BEHIND THE BOARDS Series





The WORLD FAMOUS MIC CLUB FREESTYLE BATTLE





SPECIAL GUESTS like...


SEAN PRICE









10. The overall Morale of ATLANTA'S HIP HOP UNDERGROUND is at an All Time Low!!! We love this music and the Artists that create the Music, but when it's time to go out and support it, either due to the Economy or what have You... The People just don't seem to show. Unless it's a FREE EVENT!!! Now I can understand going out to a Free Show, I do it myself. But, Damn People... they all can't be FREE! Case in Point in the past month, COMMON, The ROOTS, N.E.R.D., ATMOSPHERE, GYM CLASS HEROES, M.O.P., SEAN PRICE & ILL BILL have all come to ATLANTA, only the M.O.P. Concert which was a Free Show was attended. Which is actually why we thought that now is the time to bring the show back to Atlanta. Now I know that we're not gonna change the scope of ATL Hip Hop alone, which is why We need your help. check out the show one time and if it's not for You then that's totally fine but, if it is for You then, please tell someone about it.

Till then Good People REMEMBER the Role or Responsibility of an Artist is to advance Civilization as WE know it!!!

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME... WE SHOULDN'TVE LEFT YOU WITHOUT A DOPE SHOW TO COME TO!!!

Ladies & Gentlemen...

To the Hungry Hip Hop Masses that didn't feel that the BET HIP HOP AWARDS were for them... We have 2 Shows coming up that should be worth the Price of Admission...

First up!!! on SUNDAY OCT. 26th, 2008 @ The LOFT 1374 W. Peachtree St. NW; Atlanta, GA. 30309... TAG RECORDS presents SURVIVAL OF THE FRESHEST - An Open Call MC BATTLE where the Winner will recieve $5000 & a DEMO DEAL with TAG RECORDS and JERMAINE DUPRI!!! Hosted by Our Guy from Up Top TAMIR Z. BROWN of LYRICS2GO & The #1 HIP HOP CONCERT HOST in The COUNTRY & Founder of 4KINGS ENTERTAINMENT & The WORLD FAMOUS MIC CLUB - D.R.E.S. tha BEATNIK!!! DJ's DON CANNON(APHILLIATES) along with DJ's WRECKINEYEZ & ALI-EN will be Providing the Soundtrack for LYRICAL MAYHEM!!! KONSOLE KINGZ will be showcasing the latest Games for all You Gamers out there!! HANNIBAL MATTHEWS will be making sure that the Room Looks beautiful with His ART & MARCO'S PITA will be making sure that Everyone gets Fed!!!

THE BEST PART ABOUT THIS EVENT ESPECIALLY IN THESE ECONOMIC TIMES THAT WE'RE IN IS THAT THIS EVENT IS FREE!!!

Doors open @ 7p Registration begins @ 6:30p DAY OF THE EVENT!! For more info log on to
http://www.tagrecords.com




Then on TUESDAY OCTOBER 28th, 2008... After a very Tumultous 7 Month Break...

4KINGS ENTERTAINMENT in association with The MASQUERADE presents ILL BILL & SEAN PRICE of HELTAH SKELTAH LIVE IN CONCERT for the GRAND RE-OPENING of THE WORLD FAMOUS MIC CLUB @ The MASQUERADE 695 North Ave. NE; Atlanta, GA. 30308!!!



The SHOW is DEFINITELY BIGGER, BETTER, STRONGER & MUCH FASTER!!! NEW BEATS... A BIGGER VENUE... FREE PARKING... CLIMATE CONTROLLED ROOMS... HIGH POWERED SOUND SYSTEM... & A MORE FEROCIOUS ATTITUDE!!!

ALONGSIDE ILL BILL & SEAN PRICE is something that You just don't see at HIP HOP SHOWS ANYMORE... LOCAL SUPPORT from 2 of THE BEST IN THE ATL UNDERGROUND - SENOR KAOS of VINTAGE IMPERIAL/ THE KAOS EFFECT.com & The ALPHA NOISE PROJECT (DROPBOMBZ.com) will be Opening the Event. Hosted by D.R.E.S. tha BEATnik alongside DJ's EDWARD SCIZZAHANDZ & RAZAH...

DOORS OPEN @ 7:30p SHOW STARTS @ 8p.. Tickets are $15 in ADVANCE & Available @
http://www.ticketmaster.com For More Info log onto http://www.masq.com or

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

4KINGS ENT. NEWSLETTER VOL. 8

I actually enjoy working... I was having a conversation with a Couple of Friends of Mine not to Name Drop but one was Big Zak & the Other was Cee-Lo of GOODIE MOB & GNARLS BARKLEY Fame and we were talking about fan relations & the business of being Personable with the Public when You sometimes don't want to... And through this conversation I had an epiphany that I thought I'd share with Them & I'll share with You... "There are times when I don't like the interruptions in Public during "Private" moments. Like sharing a Meal when I'm out with My Girl Nicki or hanging out with My Guys or even doing My best to be a better Father to My Daughter Ashanti. But at the end of the Day when it's all said and done... I am blessed to have this life and have this Career. I mean think of it like this... Imagine what You could actually be doing if You weren't involved in this business." Everyday at some point I have to remind myself that I'm being allowed to have a Semi-Charmed kind of Life through my Art and everyday I'm more and more thankful for it. I get to communicate with People and add something to their lives and it's Great!! With that said here is where I'm going to be at in the next couple of weeks hopefully I'll see you there and have a meaningful conversation. Take Care & Be Well...

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Thursday, October 2, 2008

To Improve Your Marriage, Be Quiet! - FEEL FREE TO DISCUSS!!!

I found this on MySpace and thought that it was worth sharing... The Original Poster is a Woman and after reading this I feel like I've gained some clarity and I hope that You can too... ENJOY!!!
To Improve Your Marriage, Be Quiet!


I was taught that the only way to a good relationship was through discussion, and discussion, and more discussion. So that's what I did early on in my relationship with my husband. Somehow, though, it didn't work out quite the way I was taught that it would. It wasn't leading to better bonding. And why I thought it would work is beyond me, since my parents had about the worst relationship imaginable, and they discussed everything incessantly, at the top of their lungs.

So I went radical on myself, and tried shutting up. It worked FAR better than all the discussions ever did. I worried that it would result in us drifting apart, and becoming strangers. But my fears, so far, have not been realized. So I'd say it worked out pretty well. Much better than the discuss, discuss, discuss tactic I'd held onto with irrational fear my whole life.

And today I found an article on CNN.com that confirms what I found by my own marital experiment. Here's the article. I thought this revelation in my own life was very important, and now that I have someone else to back it up, I think it's worth sharing.

By Barbara Graham
(
OPRAH.com) -- Forget everything you've heard about frankness, sharing your feelings, getting him to express his. New research into the male mind makes it clear that discussion may be the fastest way to shut down communication. (Oh, you noticed that, have you?)
Men see discussion of "issues" as criticism and feel shamed, author says.
When I first heard about the book, I thought it was a gimmick. "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" sounded like a title somebody's prankster husband dreamed up after a rocky couples' therapy session.


When I mentioned it to Hugh, my own husband -- who in 22 years of marriage has never once said, "Honey, we need to talk" -- his face lit up like the Fourth of July.

Needless to say, I was suspicious. What about the vast repertoire of communication skills women have spent decades perfecting? Were Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, the psychotherapists who co-authored the book, advising us to forget everything we've learned and rethink how we relate to our partners?

The answer is yes -- and they're not kidding.
"The number one myth about
relationships is that talking helps. The truth is, more often than not, it makes things worse," says Love, a tall, lean redhead with a down-home Texas twang and a generous smile. She is co-founder of the Austin Family Institute and leads workshops around the country when she isn't making television appearances or co-writing books, including the best-selling "Hot Monogamy."

"Talking about feelings, which is soothing to women, makes men physically uncomfortable," says Stosny, the Maryland-based author of "You Don't Have to Take It Anymore" and an expert on male aggression. "There's literally more blood flow to their muscles. They get fidgety, and women think they're not listening."

We're relaxing in the sunroom of my house in Washington, D.C., on a golden autumn morning. I learn that it was Stosny's research into the core emotional differences between the sexes that radically altered his thinking, as well as the way he works with clients. When he shared his findings with his friend and colleague Pat Love, they rang true to her, even though they flew in the face of the verbal problem-solving approach she'd been using for 30 years.

Like electric shock and sugar blues

According to Stosny's analysis of several hundred human and animal studies, male and female responses to stress are distinct from birth.
"When a baby girl hears a loud noise or gets anxious, she wants to make eye contact with someone, but a baby boy will react to the same sound by looking around, in a fight-or-flight response," he says. What's more, while newborn girls are much more easily frightened, boys have five times as many "startle" reactions, which are emotionally neutral but pump up adrenaline. Boys need to intermittently withdraw into themselves to keep from becoming overstimulated.
These differences hold true for most social animals and correlate with our biological roles: The female's fear response is an early warning system that serves to detect threats and alert the males of the pack to danger.

As girls grow, they go beyond needing eye contact and refine a coping strategy identified by UCLA psychologists as "tend and befriend." If there's a conflict, girls and women want to talk about it.
Boys and men, however, need to pull away. A man's greatest suffering, Stosny says, comes from the shame he feels when he doesn't measure up -- which is why discussing relationship problems (i.e., what he's doing wrong) offers about as much comfort as sleeping on a bed of nails.

So, I wonder, does this explain why, when I reach out and tell Hugh I'm feeling isolated from him -- on the assumption that this will foster closeness -- he gets defensive or withdraws? Do my verbal attempts to re-establish intimacy make him feel inadequate? Is that why he gets that glazed look in his eye and is suddenly compelled to watch men tossing balls on TV?

Yes, yes, and yes, replies Love. And our responses aren't all in our heads. When a man feels shamed by a woman's criticism, his body is flooded with cortisol, a stress hormone with an effect that is decidedly unpleasant.

A woman experiences a similar cortisol rush whenever her husband shouts at her, ignores her, or otherwise does something that scares her and seems to threaten their bond. Love compares the sensation that accompanies the sudden release of cortisol to sticking your finger in an electric socket, followed by the sort of "sugar blues" crash that occurs after you polish off a few too many glazed doughnuts.

"A cortisol hangover can last for hours in men and up to several days in women," Love says. "It's no wonder both sexes try to prevent it."

Compassion more important than love

Okay, this makes sense, but if talking about relationships makes men twitchy and drunk on cortisol, then what's the alternative? Charades?

"It's the connection, stupid!" exclaims Love, quickly adding that it's not me personally she's calling stupid. "Everyone -- men, women, myself included -- needs to learn that before we can communicate with words, we need to connect nonverbally. We can do that in simple ways, through touch, sex, doing things together. The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you're not talking."
Stosny puts it this way: "We need to stop trying to assess the bonding verbally and instead let the words come out of the bonding." Interestingly, he adds, "When couples feel connected, men want to talk more and women need to talk less, so they meet somewhere in the middle. Being aware of the fear-shame dynamic helps."

To illustrate the point, Love tells the story of an afternoon when she and her husband were lying in bed naked after showering. "I was wondering if he'd initiate sex, when all of a sudden in my mind I crossed over to his side of the bed and got a sense of what it was like to be him, never knowing if he's going to be accepted or rejected. It was terrifying. I understood then how deeply ashamed that must make him feel," she recalls. "It was an epiphany that changed my life." She immediately began emphasizing compassion in her work with clients, and has come to believe -- as does Stosny -- that it's even more crucial to the success of a long-term relationship than love.

The tricky part is that men and women must empathize with vulnerabilities they don't feel to the same degree -- namely fear and shame. To do this requires what the authors call binocular vision, in which each partner makes a conscious effort to consider the other's point of view. "The problem is that when you're angry, you're wrong even when you're right because you can't see the other person's perspective," Stosny says. "That's when you lose the thing you long for most, the connection."

Okay, I get it: Connection rules. But it's hard to imagine most people being capable of reaching out to their partners in the heat of an argument. Love and Stosny acknowledge that it's a tall order. Still, they say, for couples to productively address the hurt that underlies anger, it helps to have a previously agreed-upon signal such as a hand gesture to keep disagreements from spiraling out of control. This doesn't mean they should try to ignore their feelings, but instead find a way to convey that the other person matters more than whatever they're resentful or anxious about -- and then talk. The beautiful part, Love says, is that "it takes only one person to make the gesture. The partner will feel the impact, even if he or she can't drop the anger right at that moment."

Admittedly, this approach is most effective for couples in a precrisis state, Stosny says, "when there's still time for the man to step up to the plate and stop withdrawing or being reactive, and for the woman to understand that her husband really does want to make her happy and to stop being so critical. Men are better able to stay in the room and listen to women if they don't think they're being blamed for their distress."

But ultimately, Love adds, "couples have to decide that the relationship is more important than all those things they do that annoy each other."

"Even when Hugh throws his sopping wet towel on the bed, forgets to put gas in the car, or stares into space when I try to tell him something that really matters to me?" I ask, only half joking.
"If you give him positive reinforcement instead of criticizing him, he'll start doing more of the things you want him to do," Love says.

The next night over dinner, I give it a whirl. "I love it when you put gas in the car and hang up your wet towel," I say. He looks at me like I've gone off the deep end. "What's up?" he asks suspiciously. "Why are you being so nice?"

But a few days later when I'm distraught over a potentially scary mammogram report and he jumps in too quickly to reassure me that everything will turn out fine (it does), I decide to try out the binocular vision that Love and Stosny recommend. That's when I see that Hugh feels like a failure because he wants to make things better and he can't.

So instead of my usual knee-jerk irritability at what I perceive as his lack of sensitivity, I say, "I'm terrified and I just need you to listen." Which he does, patiently, lovingly. After I've finished reciting my laundry list of fears, he holds me close and neither of us says anything for a long time. We don't need to.

It's the connection, stupid!

By Barbara Graham from "O, The Oprah Magazine," February 2007